The Naive Bayes theorem represents the initial beliefs one has and updating it based on posterior evidence. It's crucial to have epistemic humility when forming labels of events and individuals around you, and this theorem extends into the philosophical train of thought of 'what defines you'.
ex. "Am I Lam Pham because I'm a product designer or am I a product designer because I'm Lam Pham?"
ex. "To you, she's one in a million, but to her, you're just one in a million."
Features of your self, such as personality traits, values, beliefs, can be seen as evidence that define your identity, but maybe it's all independent identifiers that factor into who you are. Rather than seeing identity as an interconnected system of labels that classify all of you, each segmented part plays a role in illustrating who you are in that specific limelight.
That plays heavily into how we code-switch with all the people in our lives. I talk to my parents in a way that my close friends would never see, or the way I act in front of an attractive woman resembling an idealistic representation of my good side. I've definitely grown tired of maintaining multiple facades, and have decided to showcase myself as what I see in the mirror. That trust in my self far outweighs the benefits of quasi-parasocial relationships, and how I define myself in relation to others is a representation of that. I no longer desire as much social approval as I used to, to retain my presence of mind.
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The human being is riddled with contradictions, but the source of that comes from our own minds and perspectives. Through this notion, the human exists simply because, but we label ourselves to have contradictory thoughts, from one frame of reference in your lifetime to another. Doesn't that mean hypocrisy is in our innate biology?
I'm learning to understand hypocrisy as an illustration of growth in one‘s maturity and actions. Having empathy for those that are still defining their sense of self is a struggle though, and reading between the lines with people's actions is exhausting me. I can't help but wonder, “why can't you just be honest with yourself?"
That fluidity underscores the connection between who you are and who you present yourself to be when around others. And that is an acquired skill that comes with time for me, because I’m growing just like them.
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I see myself as a confrontational person; not because I like it, but because I have to be sometimes. And when I'm greeted with defensiveness, I try to drill into why - why she's being defensive, why he's acting like this, why are they hiding something from me. Rooted in insecurity, my trust in the people around me was a static frame of reference that couldn't abide by seeing change in them. Maybe she wasn’t pathologically defensive, just extremely invested in my good opinion of her.
How easy it is to be moral when my morals align with my preferences.
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